My Partner Can't Settle My Baby, What Can We Do?

This is so tough for both of you. For you because I’m sure it would be good to have a break and for your partner because they want to be more involved, help you and bond with baby.

It can be quite tricky for me to advise on this without doing a full assessment of the whole situation (get in touch if you’d like to have some tailored advice) but I’ve compiled a few ideas below for you to try:

1. Have your partner do the whole bedtime routine up to the moment they have a feed from you or need you in some capacity to get to sleep

2. Alternate the nights you do bedtime so that your little one gets used to both of you during that time of day

3. If your little one is distressed with anyone else doing bedtime, start small. Find moments in the day where your partner can have some one on one time, skin-to-skin, playtime with lots of eye contact and build up to introducing them in parts of the bedtime routine first

If you'd like to talk this through in more detail I'm here to help.